Do you feel like you have to do it all? You’re not alone.
There is only so much time in the day. We can’t do it all. You have to pick and choose what you’re gonna focus on.
How do you know what to focus on? Here are 6 steps to NOT doing it all that worked for me.
Step 1: Begin with the end in mind.
What do you want to accomplish in life? Literally, in this lifetime?
LIFE IS SHORT. VERY SHORT.
I cannot stress this enough.
You will wake up one day, and it will be over. What will you wish you did more of? Less of?
Let that answer guide ALL of your decisions about where and how to spend your time.
Step 2: Define SMART goals and focus only on them.
Maybe you want to be a good provider for your family. Maybe that means make millions. Maybe that means make $100k/year. Whatever. The goal has to be SMART:
In other words:
If you want to run an online kid’s clothing boutique that generates $100k/yr in net income by Q4 2016.
Then that is your goal. Period.
Everything else, and I mean EVERYTHING ELSE should support that goal.
Does get you one step closer towards that goal? NO! So don’t do it!
I’m not kidding. DO NOT UNLESS IT FURTHERS YOUR GOALS.
Now, maybe your goal is to be the most loved, cherished, adored, helpful friend and person on the planet — the person who goes out of their way to help everyone with everything. Maybe you want your tombstone to read:
HERE LIES SALLY. SHE HELPED EVERYONE DO EVERYTHING. THAT WAS HER GOAL.
Just remember that every single thing you do needs to be in support of that goal.
However, don’t assume that you will accidentally also achieve another, secret goal of $100k/yr in net income.
Which brings up another point…
Step 3: Be honest about your goals.
If you want to be THE leading expert on all things related to belly-button lint, then so be it.
Do not judge your dreams. LIVE THEM.
No one will laugh at you for following your passion and living your life your way. If they do, tell them to call me, and I’ll set them straight.
In other words…
Don’t create goals because you should or you have to. That’s lame. You will never accomplish lame goals.
Create goals that speak to your heart. Goals must excite you and make you say, WOW, wouldn’t it be cool if I really achieved that?!
HAVE TO Goals sound like: I need to lose weight.
WOW Goals sound like: I will lose 10 pounds in 6 weeks and totally rock that killer red dress hanging on my door and treat myself to a night of dancing.
Which brings up another point…
Step 4: Write down your goals and prominently display them in a place that you see every single day. Or even better, hang it in a place you see every minute of everyday.
Mine are on the bulletin board that hangs over my desk. I literally sit with my nose 24 inches from that bulletin board everyday.
Do your goals stare you in the eyes daily and dare you to achieve them?
Step 5: You cannot have disparate goals.
It’s ALL got to line up with each other.
Goal #1: I will become a famous rockstar and tour the world.
Goal #2: I will be a rockstar mom who takes my kids to school everyday.
Those two goals don’t line up. If you really want to, you can find a way to make it work — maybe the kids and their teacher go on tour with you.
My point: Make sure your goals line up. Work together. No conflicts.
Speaking of no…
Step 6: No is a complete sentence.
Because our time is LIMITED, you HAVE TO get comfortable with saying NO. It is a complete sentence.
Successful people make it a habit to say no all the time.
One more thing…
I promise if you follow this advice, as you take your last breath and reflect on your life, you will say:
I did it all.